The thing that struck me most, however, of all that author Phyllis Chesler says, was this:
Yes, and Alice (author/activist Alice Walker) did all the things
that women like Judy (Rebecca's more traditional, stay-at-home step-mother)
don't want to do and can't do: Write great poems and novels, devote oneself to
world work, crusade for human and women's rights. Rebecca: Trust me, a woman
really cannot do both. The myth that we can is a dangerous one.
I completely resist that statement. It has nothing to do with myths. It's about what you want to put in your life, and what you don't. Personally, I want to include in my life as much as possible. I want to have meaningful work, and I want to be a meaningful mother. I believe, with varying degrees of success, I am actually doing this! It is no great trick, believe me. It's called having a full life. It's called being a complete person. It's called not falling into compartments of either/or, traditional/non-traditional.
Also Chesler sets up quite a divide: the words "great", "devote" and "crusade" apply to Alice, but check out the words she uses to describe Judy:
Judy, who bore five children and found meaning as a stay-at-home or ever-availableNot exactly power-words there!
mother. ..." [A] traditional mother. ..."
Chesler is wrong. Wittingly or unwittingly, she's propagating a whole other sort of myth-- the myth that you have to choose, the myth that you have to exclude. It's so limiting....and so unnecessary.